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Earlier Events
Wednesday 24 March 2021, 11.00-12.00 am
"Mothering during the Pandemic"
What About the Children? Conference
Steve Biddulph will be talking 10.00-11.00
A summary of my talk will be on www.whataboutthe children.org.uk
"Whar mothers learn from breastfeeding - without being taught"
for La Leche League, Waltham Forest Group
Sunday 29 November and 13 December 2020
Free event on Zoom
Join us for a discussion with Naomi Stadlen. She will introduce the topic and then lead a discussion on 'What Mothers Learn From Breastfeeding - without being taught.'
Mothers learn immensely from breastfeeding - about their babies, about themselves, and about the attitudes of people around them. This kind of learning is easily taken for granted at the time, and then forgotten and 'buried' after. The more we share and discuss our experiences of breastfeeding, the more we are likely to value what we have learned. 
What's On at Elizabeth Gaskell's House
Online Talk:
‘A Grand Quarrel’
Between Elizabeth Gaskell and Florence Nightingale
Wednesday 4 November 2020 7.00-8.00pm
What was the ‘grand quarrel’ between Elizabeth Gaskell and Florence Nightingale?
Join us online to find out why these two eminent Victorian women disagreed over the role of mothers, and how each represented a different kind of feminism – long before feminism became a recognised movement.
Author and psychotherapist Naomi Stadlen will explore the arguments that these two brilliant and original women put forth, and question whether we need to vote for one of them – or do we need them both?
Doing ‘Nothing’
The phenomenology of mothering and psychotherapy
Naomi Stadlen
Inner Circle Seminar No. 261
Sunday 13 September 2020
10 a.m. to 5 p.m.
It’s impossible to do nothing. Mothers often say: ‘I’ve got nothing done all day.’ This can’t be a literal statement. It’s a statement of value. While I was writing What Mothers Learn, I noticed many similarities between the work of mothers and that of psychotherapists. Both can feel as if they are ‘doing nothing’ exactly when they are working well. So ‘nothing’ must be ‘something’ that we seem to undervalue. We will use this seminar to identify and explore some of the actions that so easily get dismissed as ‘doing nothing’. Psychotherapists, mothers, and interested others are warmly invited to take part.
Mother, grandmother, existential psychotherapist, supervisor and teacher Naomi Stadlen has conducted weekly discussion groups, Mothers Talking, for nearly thirty years. Her books What Mothers Do – especially when it looks like nothing (2004) and How Mothers Love – and how relationships are born (2011) are translated into many languages and enjoyed by mothers round the world who say that their experiences are described and valued in them. Her third book, just published, is What Mothers Learn – without being taught (April 2020).
Naomi Stadlen conducted Inner Circle Seminar No. 77, Listening to Mothers, on 25 April 2004; and (with Anthony Stadlen) Inner Circle Seminar No. 125, Merleau-Ponty: ‘The Child’s Relations with Others’, on 16 March 2008. 
Friday 14 August 2021, 10.30-11.30
"I Get Nothing Done All Day!"
The Motherkind Cafe, Oxford
A discussion exploring the work of mothering.
Thursday 9 May 2019 10.30-12.00 noon
Do Mothers Think Differently?
at St Johns Wood Library,
20 Circus Road, NW8 6PD
Wednesday 29 November 2017 at 11.00am-1.00pm
La Leche League, Waltham Forest
Naomi Stadlen on 'Mothering Through Breastfeeding'
Venue: Gnome house, Blackhorse Lane, Walthamstow E17 6DS
Nearest station: Blackhorse Road, Victoria Line
Tickets: £5.
Saturday 28 October 2017
LLLGB National Workshop
Naomi Stadlen on 'Learning to Mother'
Priory Street Centre
York YO1 6ET
Saturday 27 May 2017 10.00-12.00 noon
Talking About Birth Matters
Panel, organised by Dr Tanja Staehler
University of Sussex
At Friends' Meeting House, Ship Street, Brighton BN1 1AF
Wednesday 29 March 2017 at 11.00am
La Leche League, Waltham Forest
Naomi Stadlen will introduce Vanessa Olorenshaw who will talk about her new book, Liberating Motherhood.
Venue: Gnome house, Blackhorse Lane, Walthamstow E17 6DS
Nearest station: Blackhorse Road, Victoria Line
Tickets: £5.
14 February 2017 3.30-5.00pm
Talk and discussion on intimacy
Venue: New Hall, Claremont Centre,
24-27 White Lion Street,
London NW1 9PD
Entry is free

40th Anniversary Conference La Leche Liga Deutschland
16-18 September 2016
atJugendherberge Oberbernhards,Oberbernhards 5,36115 Hilders-Oberbernhards, Germany
Talk by Naomi Stadlen on 17 September: The Language of Mothering
on Was Mutter Tun, the German translation of What Mothers Do (translator: Lena Pemoller),
published by La Leche Liga Deutschland 2016
Sunday 25 September 2016
Being needed as a mother
Talk to Breastfeeding Peer Support Conference:
at St Erme Community Centre, Castle Field, Trispen, Truro, Cornwall TR4 9BD
Wednesday 23 march 2016 10.00-12.00am £12.00
conscious birth & evolving motherhood
with naomi stadlen & natalie dorchester
evolve 10 kendrick mews london sw7 3hg tel. 020 7581 4090
'No Mother is an Island'
Running series meetings for mothers
Spring Workshop of Wales and South West La Leche League
Saturday 25 April 2015 at 13.15
Dyrham village hall, near Bath
'Can't You Pull Your Socks Up, Darling?'
Grandmothers, supportive and not-so-supportive
Association of Breastfeeding Mothers Conference
Saturday 7 June 2014
'A Grand Quarrel'
Mrs Gaskell and Florence Nightingale
A talk for the conference: Mothers, Mothering and Motherhood from Ancient to Contemporary Times
Motherhood Initiative for Research and Community Involvement (MIRCI)
Friday-Saturday 23-24 May 2014
'Alone Together: Intimacy and Its Difficulties'
A talk for the Society of Psychotherapy
Tuesday, 18 March 2014, 7.00-8.30pm
Belsize Square Synagogue
51 Belsize Square London NW3 4HX
More details atwww. societyofpsychotherapy.org.uk

'Rethinking the term: "A working mother"' Talk for http://www.imothering.com/  2013.

BBC Radio 4 on Saturday 4 May 2013 at 8.00pm
From Donald Winnicott to the Naughty Step'
Presented by Anne Karpf.
This contains a few contributions from Naomi Stadlen.

'How Mothers Learn About Mothering' Interview with Pinky Mckay, 14 February 2013 Link: InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=38183196 Pinky Mckay's website is http://www.parentingbyheart.com.au/
Wednesday 21 November 2012
'What are mothers doing at home?'
Open Meeting for Mothers At Home Matter
at the Swedenborg Hall,  20-21 Bloomsbury Way, London WC1A 2TH.

Saturday 10 November 2012
'Do They Need Me?' Facilitating Times When Mothers Are Talking
Talk for Baby Massage Ireland, at the Ashling Hotel, Dublin
Wednesday 24 October 2012, 10.00-12.00am
"What is different about being a mother?"
at The School of Life for the Mumsnet Academy, 70 Marchmont Street, London WC1 1AB.
Sunday 20 May 2012
'Mothers in Moments of Anger'
First BabyCalm Conference
Holiday Inn Hotel, Regents Park, London
Sunday 13 May 2012 3.00-5.00pm
Postponed from February
On 30 January 2012, Mothers Talking was 21 years old. I originally planned to have a celebration on the following Sunday. But there was a very heavy snowfall the night before, so it seemed sensible to postpone it. It was celebrated on Sunday 13 May 3.00-5.00 at:
The Legal Cafe
81 Haverstock Hill
London NW3 4SL
They allowed me to hire their entire basement area, for us to sit and talk.
Fathers and grandparents were welcome too.
Toys were available for children.
There was tea and chocolate cake on offer.
Plenty of alternative refreshments at the counter.
I contacted a number of mothers from the 1990s, so it was a fascinating afternoon.
If you weren't able to come, would you like to send a message with perhaps a recent photo of yourself and your child?
Saturday and Sunday 5/6 May 2012
Birthlight Conference: Light on Parenting
The Kennedy Lecture Theatre, UCL Institute of Child Health, 30 Guilford Street, London WC1N 1EH
My talk was on 'A Special Time' at 13.35-2.20 on 5 May 2012.
Friday 23 March 2012, 2.00-3.30
Session for Magnetic Mums at Battersea Yoga.
Venue is a community centre near Clapham Junction.
Wednesday 29 February 2012
National Childbirth Trust Study Day
Jennett's Park Community Centre
1 Tawny Owl Square
Bracknell, RG12 8EB
2.30-4.00 I gave a talk and followed by questions and discussion.
Saturday 25 February 2012
'Parenting our Children'
La Leche League, Tralee, Co. Kerry, Ireland
I gave three talks at an all-day conference.

"Each mother creates her own relationship, or conversation, with her baby"

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